Decreased energy, fatigue, or being "slowed down". He will always be 11 to me. It isnt just women! My attorney has changed her attitude somewhat for the better. My email is jen four 03 two at gmail, CPs just took my 3 children. ?? (2001). Did you go to court? I honor them and embrace their grief, and understand their depression but there are other things to do in life, even if your children have been taken forever. Hello Amanda, My 3 kids are gone because the first 3 drug test werent enough and I failed the 4th hair folicale for OTC sinus meds. God would never take someones children away especially when they are loved and cared for. Support your child in their thought time: Support your children through their struggles, too (if they're old enough). I had my own apartment, my car had just broke down and i could not work because my daughter had cerebral palsy. In time, the shock will wear off and other emotions such as anger, guilt and regret may surface. Thats a good way to look at it, Shirley. Your children are going to grow up and have their own kids one day. I lost my children 16 years ago. Amber, You can get them on Ebay. flashbacks, anxiety, or other symptoms of PTSD. Shock and surprise, in the blink of an eye. This happened in 2005 but still today 2019 the tpr is destroying my life. I believe that my God allowed this for a reason. by . Like I told my baby, They cannot keep us away from each other for ever. One of Gods promises is found in Romans 8:38, 39 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor hings present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Please write me missmelovestorii-at-gmail.com, My name is kathryn. This is battle for our children, and grandchildren. Cps had allowed us six great visits worth the kids and the kids run up to me and their step mom with huge smiles and they keep asking when they can come back to my place.. Cps is keeping the kids away for no reason. My baby barely knows me. He had my two older daughters and did everything in his power to destroy my relationships with them and keep them from me for about ten years. I still have court in Feb to follow up on my grandsons case I am still untrusting of them and I will only feel better when I get that FINAL ruling. Mothers who have lost the custody of their children are also seen to have a higher risk of anxiety and depression, and substance use. Help Im starting to feel hopeless again. I pray and I try to get help but they have just been giving me the run around. They just got taken because I had a messy home and according to cps it was a hazard. Sometimes, these feelings can rush back years after your loss. You will get them back sooner than I will mine because they are in the system and not with a vindictive ex. Im sorry your 17yo turned against you. This sounds like they lied to be able to adopt your children out maybe to the foster parents. The fact is my son need milk an dippers and i violated a saftey plan. I am disabled war veteran, dad of premature twins that I actually paid thousands for and state is stealing my twins illegally from hospital and now removing my rights and my wife of 20 years, from a 12 year old wrongful conviction from spanking my $25K adopted international 12 month old son. I lost my children 3 years ago. I think thats mainly for family court cases, when CPS isnt involved. It always makes a huge difference for your outlook on life. Read this: Who Will Prepare Your Case? But soon after the mother began allowing their male child identified in legal documents as "L." to . Where do you live? Try to communicate with the other parent/guardian so that there is an open line of communication.. Seek out professional help to manage stress through therapy. It helps a lot. I have given up and have been on the streets homeless. The 5 Stages of Grief. Im not kidding! Do not mention anyone else's name. I find myself in depression mode at times even when I think Im ok. She monitors everything i say. 7 Warning Signs Your Marriage May End in Divorce. No matter what. It suggests that we go through five distinct stages after the loss of a loved one. You may be more prone to viral infections, such as colds. Sometimes parents are not sure if their child is depressed. Let us consider a combination of the following: If you notice the symptoms of your depression has persisted for more than two weeks and it is impacting your ability to work, maintain relationships, and deal with the stressors of your daily life. Do not be like those people who committed suicide. If you have the time, lobby them and let them know youre willing to help create new laws to keep non-abusive, battered parents with their children in a safe place. But, that started about 25 years ago and now, I dont even get an emotional response from writing about it. I guess they dont like people hiring attorneys and disputing what they say. I havent seen them since 2009. I turned every sad feeling I felt into motivation to get my kids back and prove they should not have been taken in the first place. Like with any separation, the pain is extreme for a long time but it eventually subsides and you can go on living, and create a good future for yourself. Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism. You may have physical reactions to your grief. Im trying to get my son back. I couldnt believe they were discussing in an open court room their plans on handling a mother and her child with an outcome already planned. I know that lost feeling so very well. I hope this helps God Bless You! Live your life in such a way that your children will have a faithful path on which to follow. Pls go to my website and click on SIGN THE PETITION. God and God alone has given each biological parent right to their children. Since she was stolen my hair is turning gray and Ive had many health issues.all due to stress. If you are depressed, don't attempt to hide it because of a child custody case. Than another knock, I was informed that due to an past history of drug use, domestic abuse, married to a felon, and un healed psychological stress issues, grief, and no job or reliable transportation. We only enter into attorney-client relationships with people who meet with our firm and sign a formal, written agreement with us. There are different types of depression. Im feeling your pain! You dont even have to believe like they do, but just having a church family would help. I want to share my story of hope! End of Life Mourning the Death of a Spouse When your spouse dies, your world changes. You will always be their mother. Lots of feelings and stories which lets me know I am not the only one but is there a case or grpup to fight here in arizona. For the longest time i was the only one saying no for everything. In the mean time, watch this. He twists himself around so that hes back in daddys arms. Always a hole in my heart. He felt comfortable here and truly loves his grandma and papaw. Not sure what to do to fill the void and I miss my husband and children too. . I am not party to the case but I can care for the child. My granddaughter told me that her foster dad was putting a pillow over her face in her bed I reported this as advised by a child advocacy group to report it to the state police in the foster familys county . Do it to try to have a good relationship with the adopters, to be able to see your grandchild at least once a year, maybe around Christmas time. A very night i dreamt about just ending it all.i didnt I survive because of their mental health. There are many thousands of families that have been through this. I hope you write me back!! My parental rights wjll be terminated November 14th. I tell my babies mommy loves you with all of my soul. Unfortunately, some of those people might go back to their abusive spouse anyway. cps also wanted to go to my sons job where he works as helper to the sensei at karate and were about to remove him there. You can find a lot of help there. It all started because a school lost my autistic daughter for hours and I called police against schools wishes. Good luck with your work. For an emailed notificationof new articles,enter your email address here: Copyright 2023 Linda Jo Martin, site owner, By continuing to use the site, you agree to the use of cookies. Elaine, Im glad you found the comforter and healer of broken hearts. I bought a trunk for each of them. You can still have grandbabies. I am still ready to try. Did you ever find that group to fight. Idk it hurts I constantly have a lump in my throat. My husband has a new attorney, with a brighter perspective. I have read the last chapter. These poems for grieving parents and other close family members and friends speak to feelings of anger, sadness, grief, despair, and even acceptance. 6 Signs of Parental Alienation Syndrome. This last time on tuesday he showed up with a gash in the side of his cheek and bruising on his head and temple. Each article is written by a team member with exposure to and experience in the subject matter. Our lives dont always work out the way we wish. For example, it is more and more common for a parent to cite a history of depression in their ex in an attempt to gain child custody. Social withdrawal: Some people tend to pull back from family and friends when going through periods of high stress. God bless everyone here in this forum and more that come here after. (What are they going to do?Accuse me of trying to fight for my legal rights?). Asking about these classes at your community centers or your therapist or even some social worker can guide you towards such programs. It may take a while but it can be done. There is nobody who will help. Next, can you please tell us more about your situation? This helps with depression. Comb their hair and yell at them to go brush their teeth. I cannot believe there are so many woman who know exactly how I feel! I went to a pyshc ward to get off heroin and back on my bi polar meds. Im disabled and cant work. You are a beacon of hope and a bright light showing others the way. Probably the last thing hed want to learn is that his dad gave up and ended his life before a relationship was even possible. Remember what Jesus told Pilot when asked if he was a king, Jesus answered, My kingdom is not of this world: if my kingdom were of this world, then would my servants fight, that I should not be delivered to the Jews: but now is my kingdom not from hence. (John 18:36) Long story short I have been the only constant in my grandchilds life. The following are five potential reasons why someone could lose custody due to depression or anxiety, like losing custody due to not co-parenting. Your children will come back to you from the distant land of the enemy. Email me and jen4032w-at-gmail.com I hope to hear back from you and hang in there. But adoptive parent gave my kids back and collected payments. I know who wins, and I know which side I am on. My son is 13, the age where he can say where he wants to be, but the judge in this hearing wont let him testify. Had to beg them not to for it would be so much worse that my sons co workers and friends would witness this. Teens. My teenagers have been allowed to testify as long as what they say is in accordance with the States goal is. Factors affecting mother-child visiting identified by women with histories of substance abuse and child custody loss. Take walks, or whatever you most like to do. Many of us have little or no money; those who have money, spend it all trying to fight their own battles before realizing that this is a world-wide epidemic. My kids were taken because of excessive discipline. I will never get that chance to be actually be mommy. She must have felt the same way we do. Jon Vaughn, Contributor. This has hurt me beyond the death on any relative or friend I have ever had to deal with. Anger: It's common for people to feel angry and irritable when custody arrangements change. . lasting longing for your deceased loved one. Empty chair, empty room, empty space in every family picture. mind you this happened a month and 10 days after my oldest was ripped away from me. My children were my life. Work closely with your legal team to make a custody agreement that works for all three sides- you, partner, and the child. I was to return to my home state of Missouri where I have many loved ones..employment and a home set up..this was the plan before they even stepped foot into my life. They usually don't even have a criminal record and have never been to jail. We need to quite being weak and do what our forefathers would do. Whether it is serving food at a charity kitchen, or helping adults learn to read and write in your librarys literacy program theres something you can volunteer to do. (Anything I say here, is nothing compared what I have written to Childrens Division Supervisors, politicians, and legislatures, so I am not worried about my phone number.) Having another condition such as attentional problems, learning issues, conduct or anxiety disorders also puts children at higher risk for depression. My grief and anger has nowhere to go. more information Accept. Children are being handed over to these men while the moms life falls apart. A senior who experiences a pet loss has an increased chance of falling into chronic depression after the death of their pet. He is the only one who can. I was turned away they had told me that there was no reason to involve CPS. Well Im bout ready to give up..I dont wanna even think about what might happen from this point..yesterday was my last stateso here I sit..witj sleep mess and wine..smh..if I what else to do..Im gonna go crazy n Id rather for before that. The two older girls are in two seperate homes. The nature of each disorder is vastly different. You can do this. Do it right away as the lawyer needs to notify the county of the appeal quickly, and before the children are adopted. You know how hard it is to leave them. We have also briefly discussed what you can do to cope with depression. All they have to say is that they dont want to go home, and yes, one of my teenagers has already done that. FightCPS: Child Protective Services-CPS-False Accusations, February 1, 2014 - By Linda Martin - 200 Comments. Jesus heals broken hearts. Now Im facing to be a less than every other weekend dad to my 18 month old son whom Ive been the primary caretaker. I could never find the strength to Erin her off my breast completely because I have felt the agony of opiate withdrawal and as her mother the thought of her having to endure that nearly killed me. I hope god gives me the strength to help me overcome this heart breaking situation. But, give them a feeling that you are always with them mentally. Seek out support groups and support systems from family and friends. 3. I trusted them. Recently, you may have read news stories about more and more spouses citing an exs depression in child custody cases. I could make myself available anytime. 7. Please reach out to me. You are grieving. 2023 Law Offices of Molly B. Kenny, All Rights Reserved, Reproduced with Permission, Our Free Book Offers Criteria to Help You Choose a Lawyer Thats Right for You, Free Download: 9 Urban Myths About Divorce That Can Hurt You, "Molly and her staff supported me completely through a drawn out divorce. For the record I have never cussed or acted in a nasty immature way at all towards them and I have supported them and trusted them to be professional. Mood can have characteristic diurnal fluctuations, often worsening in the early morning. When Youre Dealing With CPS, Where Are Your Friends? Why are they allowed to abuse parents and kids. My daughter thought of it as fun and games during the years that she was going from one foster home to the next about 17 foster homes in all. Ask your therapist about seeing a psychiatrist. Treasure, my best advice is to go to a church and find Jesus because He can help comfort you and heal your broken heart. .. so here i stand barely alive, barely breathing broken hearted all beat up bruised scared bitter old tired and may i mention so dangerously misunderstood. I do it one day at a time. We were all ignorant to the laws that govern DSS. If you will notice it is very rare for a CPS (by whatever name) to go after the rich and powerful. Leave a message there if you need too. Please pray for me. But my children are living in another city an hour away. This is a very, very dark time for you and I am so sorry that you have found yourself in a dark place in your life. The scientific basis of child custody decisions (2nd ed., pp. Attend a worship service with beautiful uplifting music at least once each week. I have tried numerous times to kill myself and am trying tonight. And its that our children belong to God and we only get to borrow them for a little while sometimes. I think the public defender even assigned is behind it, she was defending the caseworker because I nicely but bluntly explained I was well aware ifbthe lies that are being told, done, the corruption. XOX. So i had moved out of my friends place thinking if i got in a better place they would leave me and my children alone. They often have more anger, guilt, physical symptoms, greater depression, and a loss of meaning and purpose in life. The agency probably wont be motivated to act on alleged abuse in the foster home, as it is not in their interest to do so. There may have b. Ages 9, 6, & 5 months. If anyone has any kind of advise on this please help. But either way my baby will know shes enough, shes worth it, and shes loved. Candy, your posting touched me deep down, and brought tears to my eyes because youre doing all the things I would hope any TPRed parent would do. Exercise yourself. I had missed the first court hearing and had a scheduled hearing the following week. I have no means of fighting this legally, except to pray that some how, some way a solution presents itself or I can find someone who will take payments or work for free. The cookie settings on this website are set to "allow cookies" to give you the best browsing experience possible. You cant expect not to feel depressed, but you can learn ways to deal with your grief. After over a year of my a busive ex had an order of protection for a year but had the money to file a motion almost every week with crazy lies, snazzy attorney while no child support being temporarily ordered while I took care of all their needs. They are very taken care of. Ive suffered from extreme major depressive disorder for years but in the last two years since I havent seen my child, it has been much worse. Thats a good idea to take your son to your mom. I was told to just do what is asked of me by working and completing the services asked of me. This post would have been helpful if I wasnt atheist. Hi I lost my kids to cps as well it started in 2008 they were ages seven three and two family friends started lies cps believe them and they took my kids finaly adoptioning them the family that started the lies in august my oldest got ahold of me and I seen my girls it felt like a huge pain was lifted but there adopted family cut me off well tried my oldest still texts me a lot its great my youngest doesnt know of me its just hard cuz know Im confused and dont know what to do and Im scared my daughter has been brainwashed or Im not good enough and I will fail her please help me I missed my two youngest first days of school and Im missing out on their life I cant get that back I have hidden this pain for a long time Im ivyness of our women who have there kids I dont wanna be that person where is the happy full of life person. But to be an older person when an. Wonder if I should ever let them be and live their lives without me. Placement of my son is with her, the actual perpetrator of the DV. couldnt get anything else on me so they made that up..and violated my constitutional rights and my childs constitutional rights by asking him questions app dad told them they was not allowed without me or an attorney present and thats too bad of a court order which they did not and could not produce and said they didnt have to have one.. You have no idea how much I needed to find this page tonight. Because even though they are without you right now, they are not without God. Share your pain. My own mother said i could never ever see my son again. That is almost how they got me visiting with in-laws in the state of Texas cps came in and took my 2 beautiful and very loved little boys. And now their psychological evaluator has wrote a really bad report on me (it wouldve only been worse if she accused be of being Jeffery Dahmer!) 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